Marriage

Narrated Ziyad as-Sahmi:

Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) forbade that a stupid woman may be asked to suckle an infant. [Abu Dawud reported it. It is Mursal (missing link after the Tabi'i) and Ziyad is not a Sahabi].

وَعَنْ زِيَادِ اَلسَّهْمِيِّ ‏- رضى الله عنه ‏- قَالَ: { نَهَى رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-أَنْ تُسْتَرْضَعَ اَلْحَمْقَى.‏ } أَخْرَجَهُ أَبُو دَاوُدَ وَهُوَ مُرْسَلٌ, وَلَيْسَتْ لِزِيَادٍ صُحْبَةٌ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated 'Aishah (RA):

Hind daughter of 'Utbah - wife of Abu Sufyan - came to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) and said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) , Abu Sufyan is a miser who does not give me and my sons enough maintenance, except what I take from his wealth without his knowledge. Is there any blame on me for doing this?" He replied, "Take from his wealth what is reasonable and enough for you and your sons." [Agreed upon].

عَنْ عَائِشَةَ رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهَا قَالَتْ: { دَخَلَتْ هِنْدُ بِنْتُ عُتْبَةَ ‏-اِمْرَأَةُ أَبِي سُفْيَانَ‏- عَلَى رَسُولِ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-.‏ فَقَالَتْ: يَا رَسُولَ اَللَّهِ! إِنَّ أَبَا سُفْيَانَ رَجُلٌ شَحِيحٌ لَا يُعْطِينِي مِنْ اَلنَّفَقَةِ مَا يَكْفِينِي وَيَكْفِي بَنِيَّ, إِلَّا مَا أَخَذْتُ مِنْ مَالِهِ بِغَيْرِ عِلْمِهِ, فَهَلْ عَلَِيَّ فِي ذَلِكَ مِنْ جُنَاحٍ? فَقَالَ:

خُذِي مِنْ مَالِهِ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ مَا يَكْفِيكِ, وَيَكْفِي بَنِيكِ

.‏ } مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيْهِ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Tariq al-Muharibi (RA):

We arrived at al-Madinah when Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) was standing on the Minbar addressing the people and saying, "The hand of the giver is the upper one, and spend first on those who are dependent on you: your mother and father, your sister and brother, then your relatives in order of their closeness to you." [Reported by an-Nasa'i. Ibn Hibban and ad-Daraqutni graded it Sahih (authentic)].

وَعَنْ طَارِقِ الْمُحَارِبِيِّ قَالَ: { قَدِمْنَا اَلْمَدِينَةَ, فَإِذَا رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-قَائِمٌ يَخْطُبُ وَيَقُولُ:

يَدُ اَلْمُعْطِي اَلْعُلْيَا, وَابْدَأْ بِمَنْ تَعُولُ: أُمَّكَ وَأَبَاكَ, وَأُخْتَكَ وَأَخَاكَ, ثُمَّ أَدْنَاكَ أَدْنَاكَ

.‏ } رَوَاهُ النَّسَائِيُّ, وَصَحَّحَهُ اِبْنُ حِبَّانَ, وَاَلدَّارَقُطْنِيُّ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Abu Hurairah (RA):

Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: "A slave is entitled to his food and clothing, and he should be burdened except with the work that he is capable of doing." [Reported by Muslim].

وَعَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ‏- رضى الله عنه ‏- قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-{ لِلْمَمْلُوكِ طَعَامُهُ وَكِسْوَتُهُ, وَلَا يُكَلَّفُ مِنْ اَلْعَمَلِ إِلَّا مَا يُطِيقُ.‏ } رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Hakim bin Mu'awiyah al-Qushairi on his father's authority (RA):

I asked, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) , what is the right of the wife of one of us upon her husband?" He replied, "That you should give her food when you eat, and clothe her when you clothe yourself, and do not strike her on the face and do not revile her." [The narrator narrated the rest of the Hadith that has been mentioned in the chapter on the treatment of wives].

وَعَنْ حَكِيمِ بْنِ مُعَاوِيَةَ اَلْقُشَيْرِيِّ, عَنْ أَبِيهِ قَالَ: { قُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اَللَّهِ! مَا حَقُّ زَوْجَةِ أَحَدِنَا عَلَيْهِ? قَالَ:

أَنْ تُطْعِمَهَا إِذَا طَعِمْتَ, وَتَكْسُوَهَا إِذَا اِكْتَسَيْتَ, وَلَا تَضْرِبِ اَلْوَجْهَ, وَلَا تُقَبِّحْ…]

.‏ } اَلْحَدِيثُ.‏ وتَقَدَّمَ فِي عِشْرَةِ اَلنِّسَاءِ.‏ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Jabir (RA):

The Prophet (ﷺ) - in the Hadith of pilgrimage which is long - said in regard to women, "They (women) have rights over you (the men) to provide them with their sustenance and clothing in a reasonable manner." [Muslim reported it].

وَعَنْ جَابِر بْنِ عَبْدِ اَللَّهِ ‏- رضى الله عنه ‏- عَنْ اَلنَّبِيِّ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-‏-فِي حَدِيثِ اَلْحَجِّ بِطُولِهِ‏- قَالَ فِي ذِكْرِ اَلنِّسَاءِ: { وَلَهُنَّ عَلَيْكُمْ رِزْقُهُنَّ وَكِسْوَتُهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ.‏ } أَخْرَجَهُ مُسْلِمٌ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Umar (RA):

Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: "It is enough for a person to be considered sinful, that he neglects those whom he is responsible to sustain." [Reported by an-Nasa'i].

وَعَنْ عَبْدِ اَللَّهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-{ كَفَى بِالْمَرْءِ إِثْمًا أَنْ يُضَيِّعَ مَنْ يَقُوتُ.‏ } رَوَاهُ النَّسَائِيُّ.‏ [1]‏ .‏

Muslim has this wording:

"...to withhold (food) from the one whose food he possesses."

وَهُوَ عِنْدَ مُسْلِمٍ بِلَفْظِ:

أَنْ يَحْبِسَ عَمَّنْ يَمْلِكُ قُوتَهُ

[1]‏ .‏

Narrated Jabir (RA) in a Hadith which he attributed to the Prophet (ﷺ) regarding a pregnant (woman) whose husband died:

"She has no maintenance rights." [al-Baihaqi reported it. Its narrators are reliable, but al-Baihaqi said, "The correct narration is that which is Mawquf (a saying of a Companion)"].

وَعَنْ جَابِرٍ ‏-يَرْفَعُهُ, فِي اَلْحَامِلِ اَلْمُتَوَفَّى عَنْهَا‏- قَالَ: { لَا نَفَقَةَ لَهَا } أَخْرَجَهُ اَلْبَيْهَقِيُّ, وَرِجَالُهُ ثِقَاتٌ, لَكِنْ قَالَ: اَلْمَحْفُوظُ وَقْفُهُ [1]‏ .‏

It was established that no maintenance is due (to a woman who was divorced with three pronouncements) in the Hadith of Fatimah (RA) daughter of Qais, which has preceded. [Reported by Muslim].

وَثَبَتَ نَفْيُ اَلنَّفَقَةِ فِي حَدِيثِ فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتِ قَيْسٍ كَمَا تَقَدَّمَ.‏ رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Abu Hurairah (RA):

Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: "The upper hand is better than the lower one, and one of you should spend first on those he is responsible to provide for, lest a woman would say, 'Feed me or divorce me.'" [Reported by ad-Daraqutni, and its chain of narrators is Hasan (good)].

وَعَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ‏- رضى الله عنه ‏- قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-{ اَلْيَدِ اَلْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنْ اَلْيَدِ اَلسُّفْلَى, وَيَبْدَأُ أَحَدُكُمْ بِمَنْ يَعُولُ.‏ تَقُولُ اَلْمَرْأَةُ: أَطْعِمْنِي, أَوْ طَلِّقْنِي.‏ } رَوَاهُ اَلدَّارَقُطْنِيُّ, وَإِسْنَادُهُ حَسَنٌ [1]‏

Narrated Sa'id bin al-Musaiyab regarding a man who finds nothing to spend on his wife:

"They are to be separated." Reported by Sa'id bin Mansur, from Sufyan, from Abu az-Zinad, from Sa'id bin al-Musaiyab. He said, "I asked Sa'id (bin al-Musaiyab), 'Is this Sunnah?' And he replied, 'Yes, it is Sunnah!'" [This Hadith is a strong Mursal (missing link after the Tabi'i].

وَعَنْ سَعِيدِ بْنِ اَلْمُسَيَّبِ ‏-فِي اَلرَّجُلِ لَا يَجِدُ مَا يُنْفِقُ عَلَى أَهْلِهِ‏- قَالَ: { يُفَرَّقُ بَيْنَهُمَا } .‏ أَخْرَجَهُ سَعِيدُ بْنُ مَنْصُورٍ: عَنْ سُفْيَانَ, عَنْ أَبِي اَلزِّنَادِ, عَنْهُ.‏ قَالَ: { فَقُلْتُ لِسَعِيدِ بْنِ اَلْمُسَيَّبِ: سُنَّةٌ? فَقَالَ: سُنَّةٌ } .‏ وَهَذَا مُرْسَلٌ قَوِيَ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated 'Umar:

He wrote (letters) to the commanders of the armies regarding some men (soldiers) who have been absent from their wives, that they should impose upon them to spend on their wives or divorce them; and if they divorce them they should then send the maintenance which they have withheld. [ash-Shafi'i reported it, then al-Baihaqi with a Hasan (good) chain of narrators].

وَعَنْ عُمَرَ ‏- رضى الله عنه ‏- { أَنَّهُ كَتَبَ إِلَى أُمَرَاءِ اَلْأَجْنَادِ فِي رِجَالٍ غَابُوا عَنْ نِسَائِهِمْ: أَنْ يَأْخُذُوهُمْ بِأَنَّ يُنْفِقُوا أَوْ يُطَلِّقُوا, فَإِنْ طَلَّقُوا بَعَثُوا بِنَفَقَةِ مَا حَبَسُوا } .‏ أَخْرَجَهُ اَلشَّافِعِيُّ.‏ ثُمَّ اَلْبَيْهَقِيّ بِإِسْنَادِ حَسَنٌ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Abu Hurairah (RA):

A man came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said, "I have a Dinar." He said, "Spend it on yourself." He said, "I have another." He replied, "Spend it on your children." He said, "I have another." He replied, "Spend it on your wife." He said, "I have another." He replied, "Spend it on your servant." He said, "I have another." He replied, "You know best (what to do with it)." [ash-Shafi'i and Abu Dawud reported it, and the wording is Abu Dawud's. an-Nasa'i and al-Hakim reported it with the wife preceding the children].

وَعَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ‏- رضى الله عنه ‏- قَالَ: { جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى اَلنَّبِيِّ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-فَقَالَ: يَا رَسُولَ اَللَّهِ! عِنْدِي دِينَارٌ? قَالَ: "أَنْفِقْهُ عَلَى نَفْسِكَ".‏ قَالَ: عِنْدِي آخَرُ? قَالَ: "أَنْفِقْهُ عَلَى وَلَدِكَ".‏ قَالَ: عِنْدِي آخَرُ? قَالَ: "أَنْفِقْهُ عَلَى أَهْلِكَ".‏ قَالَ: عِنْدِي آخَرُ, قَالَ: "أَنْفِقُهُ عَلَى خَادِمِكَ".‏ قَالَ عِنْدِي آخَرُ, قَالَ: "أَنْتَ أَعْلَمَ".‏ } أَخْرَجَهُ اَلشَّافِعِيُّ وَاللَّفْظُ لَهُ, وَأَبُو دَاوُدَ, وَأَخْرَجَهُ النَّسَائِيُّ وَالْحَاكِمُ بِتَقْدِيمِ [1]‏ .‏ اَلزَّوْجَةِ عَلَى اَلْوَلَدِ [2]‏ .‏

Narrated Bahz bin Hakim on his father's authority from his grandfather (RA):

I asked, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) , to whom should I be kind and dutiful?" He replied, "Your mother." I asked, "Who comes next?" He replied, "Your mother." I asked, "Who comes next?" He replied, "Your mother." I asked, "Who comes next?" He replied, "Your father, then your relatives in order of nearness (of relationship)." [Abu Dawud and at-Tirmidhi reported it; the latter graded it Hasan (good)].

وَعَنْ بَهْزِ بْنِ حَكِيمٍ, عَنْ أَبِيهِ, عَنْ جَدِّهِ قَالَ: { قُلْتُ: يَا رَسُولَ اَللَّهِ! مَنْ أَبَرُّ? قَالَ: "أُمَّكَ".‏ قُلْتُ: ثُمَّ مِنْ? قَالَ: "أُمَّكَ".‏ قُلْتُ: ثُمَّ مِنْ "? قَالَ: "أُمَّكَ".‏ قُلْتُ: ثُمَّ مِنْ? قَالَ: "أَبَاكَ, ثُمَّ اَلْأَقْرَبَ فَالْأَقْرَبَ".‏ } أَخْرَجَهُ أَبُو دَاوُدَ, وَاَلتِّرْمِذِيُّ وَحُسَّنَهُ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Amr (RA):

A woman said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) , this son of mine: my womb was a receptacle for him, my breasts were a source of suckling for him, and my lap was a place for him to curl up in, yet his father has divorced me and wants to take him away from me." Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) replied to her, "You have more right to him as long as you do not remarry." [Reported by Ahmad and Abu Dawud. al-Hakim graded it Sahih (authentic)].

عَنْ عَبْدِ اَللَّهِ بْنِ عَمْرِوٍ رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا; أَنَّ اِمْرَأَةً قَالَتْ: { يَا رَسُولَ اَللَّهِ! إِنَّ اِبْنِي هَذَا كَانَ بَطْنِي لَهُ وِعَاءً, وَثَدْيِي لَهُ سِقَاءً, وَحِجْرِي لَهُ حِوَاءً, وَإِنَّ أَبَاهُ طَلَّقَنِي, وَأَرَادَ أَنْ يَنْتَزِعَهُ مِنِّي.‏ فَقَالَ لَهَا رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-

أَنْتِ أَحَقُّ بِهِ, مَا لَمْ تَنْكِحِي

.‏ } رَوَاهُ أَحْمَدُ, وَأَبُو دَاوُدَ, وَصَحَّحَهُ اَلْحَاكِمُ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Abu Hurairah (RA):

A woman said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) , my husband wants to take away my son, while he has benefited me and provided me with drinking water from the well of Abu 'Inabah." Then her husband came and the Prophet (ﷺ) said: "Young man, this is your father and this is your mother, so take whoever of them you wish by the hand." He took his mother's hand and she went off with him. [Reported by Ahmad and al-Arba'a. at-Tirmidhi graded it Sahih (authentic)].

وَعَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ‏- رضى الله عنه ‏- أَنَّ اِمْرَأَةً قَالَتْ: { يَا رَسُولَ اَللَّهِ! إِنَّ زَوْجِي يُرِيدُ أَنْ يَذْهَبَ بِابْنِي, وَقَدْ نَفَعَنِي, وَسَقَانِي مِنْ بِئْرِ أَبِي عِنَبَةَ [1]‏ فَجَاءَ زَوْجُهَا, فَقَالَ اَلنَّبِيُّ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-

يَا غُلَامُ! هَذَا أَبُوكَ وَهَذِهِ [2]‏ أُمُّكَ, فَخُذْ بِيَدِ أَيُّهُمَا شِئْتَ

فَأَخَذَ بِيَدِ أُمِّهِ, فَانْطَلَقَتْ بِهِ.‏ } رَوَاهُ أَحْمَدُ, وَالْأَرْبَعَةُ, وَصَحَّحَهُ اَلتِّرْمِذِيُّ [3]‏

Narrated Rafi' bin Sinan (RA):

He accepted Islam but his wife refused to accept it. The Prophet (ﷺ) then made the mother sit down to a side and the father to another side and made the son sit down between them. He (the son) then inclined to his mother, so the Prophet (ﷺ) then said. "O Allah, give him guidance." Then he inclined to his father and he took him. [Abu Dawud and an-Nasa'i reported it. al-Hakim graded it Sahih (authentic)].

وَعَنْ رَافِعِ بْنِ سِنَانٍ; { أَنَّهُ أَسْلَمَ, وَأَبَتِ اِمْرَأَتُهُ أَنْ تُسْلِمَ.‏ فَأَقْعَدَ اَلنَّبِيَّ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-اَلْأُمَّ نَاحِيَةً, وَالْأَبَ نَاحِيَةً, وَأَقْعَدَ اَلصَّبِيَّ بَيْنَهُمَا.‏ فَمَالَ إِلَى أُمِّهِ, فَقَالَ:

اَللَّهُمَّ اِهْدِهِ

.‏ فَمَالَ إِلَى أَبِيهِ, فَأَخَذَهُ.‏ } أَخْرَجَهُ أَبُو دَاوُدَ, وَالنَّسَائِيُّ, وَصححه الْحَاكِمُ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated al-Bara bin 'Azib (RA):

The Prophet (ﷺ) gave a ruling regarding Hamza's daughter in favor of her maternal aunt, saying, "The maternal aunt is in the position of the mother." [al-Bukhari reported it].

وَعَنْ اَلْبَرَاءِ بْنِ عَازِبِ رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا; { أَنَّ اَلنَّبِيَّ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-قَضَى فِي اِبْنَةِ حَمْزَةَ لِخَالَتِهَا, وَقَالَ: اَلْخَالَةُ بِمَنْزِلَةِ اَلْأُمِّ.‏ } أَخْرَجَهُ اَلْبُخَارِيُّ [1]‏ .‏

Ahmad reported it from the Hadith of 'Ali (RA), he said, "The little girl must be with her maternal aunt for the maternal aunt is (the same as) a mother."

وَأَخْرَجَهُ أَحْمَدُ: مِنْ حَدِيثِ عَلَيٍّ فَقَالَ: { وَالْجَارِيَةُ عِنْدَ خَالَتِهَا, فَإِنَّ اَلْخَالَةَ وَالِدَةٌ } [1]‏

Narrated Abu Hurairah (RA):

Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: "When one's servant serves him with his food, if he does not make him sit down with him (and eat) he should give him one or two morsels (of it)." [Agreed upon, and the wording is al-Bukhari's].

وَعَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ‏- رضى الله عنه ‏- قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-{ إِذَا أَتَى أَحَدَكُمْ خَادِمُهُ بِطَعَامِهِ, فَإِنْ لَمْ يُجْلِسْهُ مَعَهُ, فَلْيُنَاوِلْهُ لُقْمَةً أَوْ لُقْمَتَيْنِ } مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيْهِ, وَاللَّفْظُ لِلْبُخَارِيِّ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Ibn 'Umar (RA):

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "A woman was punished on account of a cat which she held captive till it died. Hence, she entered the Hell-Fire due to (her mistreatment of) the cat. She did not feed it or give it water while she held it captive, nor did she let it out so that it may eat the things that creep on the earth." [Agreed upon].

وَعَنْ اِبْنِ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا; عَنْ اَلنَّبِيِّ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-قَالَ: { عُذِّبَتْ اِمْرَأَةٌ فِي هِرَّةٍ سَجَنَتْهَا حَتَّى مَاتَتْ, فَدَخَلْتِ اَلنَّارَ فِيهَا, لَا هِيَ أَطْعَمَتْهَا وَسَقَتْهَا إِذْ هِيَ حَبَسَتْهَا, وَلَا هِيَ تَرَكَتْهَا, تَأْكُلُ مِنْ خَشَاشِ اَلْأَرْضِ } مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيْهِ [1]‏ .‏