Hadithcore
Sahih Muslim, 1424 a
sahih

Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) reported:

I was in the company of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) when there came a man and informed him that he had contracted to marry a woman of the Ansar. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: Did you cast a glance at her? He said: No. He said: Go and cast a glance at her, for there is something in the eyes of the Ansar.

حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي عُمَرَ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنْ يَزِيدَ بْنِ كَيْسَانَ، عَنْ أَبِي حَازِمٍ، عَنْ أَبِي، هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ كُنْتُ عِنْدَ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فَأَتَاهُ رَجُلٌ فَأَخْبَرَهُ أَنَّهُ تَزَوَّجَ امْرَأَةً مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ فَقَالَ لَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏"‏ أَنَظَرْتَ إِلَيْهَا ‏"‏ ‏.‏ قَالَ لاَ ‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ فَاذْهَبْ فَانْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّ فِي أَعْيُنِ الأَنْصَارِ شَيْئًا ‏"‏ ‏.‏

References2 variants
In-Book Reference
Book 16, Hadith 87
USC-MSA web (English) reference
Book 8, Hadith 3314 (deprecated numbering scheme)
Sharh · explanationclick to expand
Islam established the Shar‘i marriage system to preserve progeny and honor and it is keen on the continuity of cordiality and love between the two spouses and legislated means to this end from the beginning of engagement so that it would be more likely for them to continue their life together. In this Hadīth, Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) informs that he was present with the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) when a man came and informed him that he proposed marriage to a woman from the Ansār - the people of Madīnah - and wanted to marry her. The Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) asked him: "Did you look at her?" This is an instruction urging the man to look at the woman before proposing marriage, as this would encourage him to marry her or cause him to refrain from her. The man replied that he did not look at her. So, the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) ordered him to go and look at her. In a Hadīth narrated by Abu Dāwūd and reported by Jābir ibn ‘Abdullāh (may Allah be pleased with him): "When one of you asks a woman in marriage; if he is able to look at what will induce him to marry her, let him do so." This points out that a man should look at the woman by himself if he can, so as to see what encourages him to like and marry her. Then the Prophet (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) clarified the reason behind his instruction to look at her, saying: "for indeed there is something in the eyes of the Ansār, " i.e., some disliked blueness, smallness, or the like. This signals that a man should usually look at the face and hands, as her beauty can be recognized from the face, and the tenderness of her body can be known through her hands. The looking should happen before betrothal, lest it will be hard for her if he decides to retract his proposal, in case he does not like her. The Prophet's instruction serves a great interest. There may be something in the woman that would badly affect the continuity of their relationship after marriage, and he can identify it by looking at her, so he will leave her before the consummation of marriage; this would be lighter, simpler, and easier than consummating the marriage and divorcing her after that. The Hadīth indicates that a man should look at his fiancée before marrying her. It points out the excellence of the pure Shariah and its perfect guidelines, as it takes into consideration the interests of people by which their livelihood can be set in order in this world and the Hereafter without undergoing regret and sorrow over what was missed..