Sahih Muslim, 1409 a
sahihNubaih b. Wahb reported that 'Umar b. Ubaidullah intended to marry Talha b. 'Umar with the daughter of Shaiba b. Jubair; so he sent a messenger to Aban b. Uthman to attend the marriage, and he was at that time the Amir of Hajj. Aban said:
I heard 'Uthman b. 'Affan say that Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) had stated: A Muhrim must neither marry himself, nor arrange the marriage of another one, nor should he make the proposal of marriage.
حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ يَحْيَى، قَالَ قَرَأْتُ عَلَى مَالِكٍ عَنْ نَافِعٍ، عَنْ نُبَيْهِ بْنِ وَهْبٍ، أَنَّفَقَالَ أَبَانٌ سَمِعْتُ عُثْمَانَ بْنَ عَفَّانَ يَقُولُ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم
لاَ يَنْكِحُ الْمُحْرِمُ وَلاَ يُنْكَحُ وَلاَ يَخْطُبُ
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In this Hadīth, the Tābi‘i Nubayh ibn Wahb relates that the Tābi‘i ‘Umar ibn ‘Ubaydullāh wanted to marry his son Talhah to the daughter of Shaybah ibn Jubayr while they were in a state of Ihrām during Hajj. So, they wanted the Tābi‘i Abān ibn ‘Uthmān ibn ‘Affān to attend the contract. Abān, who was the leader of the Hajj convoy at the time, said to him: "I find you to be a thickheaded Iraqi" i.e., ignorant of the Sunnah. In some versions: 'a Bedouin', and a Bedouin is someone who lives in the desert. It is said: 'Iraqi' here is erroneous, unless he knew that the doctrine of the people of Kufa at the time permitted a Muhrim to marry, in which case 'Iraqi' would be correct, and it would mean: You are adopting their doctrine. Thickheaded denotes roughness along with ignorance. Then, ‘Abān told them that he heard ‘Uthmān ibn ‘Affān (may Allah be pleased with him) say: The Messenger of Allah (may Allah's peace and blessings be upon him) said: "A Muhrim should not marry" i.e., a Muhrim should not get married. In a version in the Sahīh Muslim Collection: "And he should not marry others off," i.e., a man should not give a woman in marriage either as her guardian or representative. This is because a Muhrim is too busy to engage in marriage contracts, as this would necessarily distract his mind and make him unable to perform worship perfectly, for it involves proposing, asking, inviting, and meeting..