Riyad as-Salihin, 647

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:

A man said to Messenger of Allah (ﷺ): "I have relatives with whom I try to maintain good relationship but they sever relations with me; whom I treat kindly but they treat me badly, with whom I am gentle but they are rough to me." He (ﷺ) replied, "If you are as you have said, then it is as though you are feeding them hot ashes and you will not be without a supporter against them from Allah, as long as you do so." [Muslim].

وعن أبى هريرة رضي الله عنه أن رجلاً قال‏:‏ يا رسول الله إن لى قرابة أصلهم ويقطعونى، وأحسن إليهم ويسيئون إلى، وأحلم عنهم ويجهلون على‏!‏ فقال‏:‏ “لئن كنت كما قلت فكأنما تسفهم المل ولا يزال معك من الله تعالى ظهير عليهم ما دمت على ذلك” ‏(‏‏(‏رواه مسلم‏)‏‏)‏ وقد سبق شرحه في “باب صلة الأرحام”‏.‏

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In-Book Reference: Introduction, Hadith 647

Sharh · explanationclick to expand

Guidance from the Hadith: 1) True upholding of kinship ties is not when a person maintains the ties with those who also maintain the ties with him; but when he does so when they sever the ties. 2) A person should patiently endure the harm by his relatives and neighbors and others. 3) Allah Almighty grants His support to those of His servants who patiently endure and seek His reward.

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