Riyad as-Salihin, 318

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:

A man said to Messenger of Allah (ﷺ): "I have relatives with whom I try to keep the ties of relationship but they sever relations with me; and whom I treat kindly but they treat me badly, I am gentle with them but they are rough to me." He (ﷺ) replied, "If you are as you say, it is as if you are feeding them hot ashes, and you will be with a supporter against them from Allah as long as you continue to do so". [Muslim].

وعنه أن رجلاً قَالَ : يَا رَسُول الله ! إنّ لِي قَرابةً أصِلُهُمْ وَيَقْطَعُوني ، وَأُحْسِنُ إلَيْهِمْ وَيُسِيئُونَ إلَيَّ ، وَأحْلَمُ عَنْهُمْ وَيَجْهَلُونَ عَلَيَّ ، فَقَالَ :

لَئِنْ كُنْتَ كَمَا قُلْتَ ، فَكأنَّمَا تُسِفُّهُمْ الْمَلَّ ، وَلا يَزَالُ مَعَكَ مِنَ اللهِ ظَهِيرٌ عَلَيْهِمْ مَا دُمْتَ عَلَى ذلِكَ

. ((رواه مسلم)).

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In-Book Reference: Introduction, Hadith 318

Sharh · explanationclick to expand

Guidance from the Hadith: 1) Maintaining ties of kinship should be based on taking the initiative rather than expecting a similar attitude. 2) A great share of good is for one who fends off abuse through good treatment, and meets his relatives’ severing of ties by maintaining ties with them. {Repel evil with what is good} However, {and none can attain this except those who are greatly fortunate.} 3) Complying with the command of Allah is a reason for a slave receiving help from Him. A guided slave is the one who aptly complies with the law of Allah Almighty and expects the reward for that from Him, without paying attention to people’s negligence of his rights upon them. 4) Having the reward for patience stored is better than receiving the rights in the worldly life, according to the interest involved in pardoning or getting the right. {but whoever pardons and seeks reconciliation}

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