All shyness (haya’) is good, for it is part of faith and is one of the praiseworthy characteristics that both men and women should seek to acquire. In this hadith, Zaynab, the daughter of Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her), narrates that Umm Sulaym – who was the mother of Anas ibn Malik and the wife of Talhah ibn ‘Ubaydillah (may Allah be pleased with them all) – came to the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) in the presence of Umm Salamah, the wife of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him). She introduced her question by saying: Allah is not too shy to tell the truth, so He would not refrain from explaining the truth and making it clear. That was because what she was going to say to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) was something that women usually feel too shy to mention in the presence of men. Then she asked her question: Does a woman have to do ghusl if she has an erotic dream, and sees in her dream that a man is having intercourse with her? The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) responded by saying that ghusl is required of her if she sees “water”, meaning discharge, when she wakes up. If she does not see it, then she does not have to do ghusl. Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) covered her face out of embarrassment at this question, because the emission of a discharge in women is indicative of strong desire for men, and she asked the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) in astonishment: Can a woman have an erotic dream? In other words, can a woman see discharge and have an erotic dream like men? He answered: Yes, a woman may have an erotic dream and see discharge. Then he said to her: “May your hands be rubbed with dust,” meaning: May you become poor and left with nothing. This was a saying among the Arabs, but they did not mean it literally as a prayer against the one to whom it was addressed. Then the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: How else would her child resemble her? In other words, for what other reason would her child resemble her, if she did not emit a discharge of her own? The discharge of the man is thick and white, and the discharge of the woman is thin and yellow. It was narrated that whichever of the two discharges overwhelms the other, the child will resemble that parent. This hadith indicates that there is no need to feel shy when seeking knowledge and asking questions about religion, because it is truth. It highlights the fact that women emit discharge and may see erotic dreams like men, and because of this discharge the child may resemble the mother. It also indicates that it is enjoined for the one who has an erotic dream to do ghusl if he (or she) sees “water” (discharge) after waking up. And it indicates that the child may resemble his father or his mother..