Allah (may He be glorified and exalted) has promised an immense reward to those who bear with patience the calamities that befall them. In this hadith, the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) gives glad tidings to women who are faced with the loss of a child of the immense reward that results from this calamity. They had asked him to set aside a day for them on which he could exhort them and speak to them, and they said to him: The men are taking all your time, meaning: they prevent us from being able to sit with you and listen to you. So the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) set aside a day for them, when he exhorted them and reminded them of the reward for bearing calamity with patience. He told them that there is no woman, three of whose children die during her lifetime, but this calamity will be a shield for her, a barrier that will protect her from the Fire. A woman said: What about one who loses two of her children; will she have the same reward as one who loses three? And the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said, “Or two.” So if two of a woman’s children die during her lifetime, that calamity will be a shield for her that will protect her from entering the Fire. The report of Abu Hurayrah that was narrated by al-Bukhaari explains that what is meant here is three children who do not reach puberty; that reward is on condition that they did not reach the age of accountability at which sins begin to be recorded. The ruling here stipulates that the reward comes only in the case where the children did not reach puberty, because parents’ hearts are more compassionate and more attached to a small child, in a way that is not applicable in the case of a child who has reached adulthood, because in the case of a child who has reached adulthood, in most cases he has invariably gone against his parents. And it was said that the ruling stipulated the condition of three children at first, because three comes under the heading of many. A believer may be afflicted with the loss of one child, but his faith is strong enough to enable him to bear the calamity with patience, but he may not be able to bear it if it happens again. Hence the one who goes through repeated calamities and bears them with patience is more deserving of great reward. A child is one of the greatest joys that a person may have in life, to the extent that he would willingly sacrifice himself for his child. This is what is usually the case with people, and even with animals, hence the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) referred to the worst type of calamity, and urged people to bear it with patience and perseverance. This hadith was addressed to the women, but it is applicable to all Muslims, as al-Bukhaari narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “No Muslim who loses three of his children in death will ever enter the Fire, except in fulfilment of the oath.” This includes both men and women. This hadith is indicative of a great reward for the one who loses his children, if he bears it with patience and does not say anything reprehensible. It indicates that women may ask about religious matters. It also indicates that the children of the Muslims [who died before reaching puberty] are in Paradise, because if Allah (may He be glorified) has mercy on their parents and admits them to Paradise because of their mercy and compassion towards their children, then it is more appropriate that the children will also receive His mercy..