Marriage

Narrated Jabir (RA):

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "Do not eat with the left hand, for the devil eats with the left hand." [Reported by Muslim].

وَعَنْ جَابِرٍ , عَنْ رَسُولِ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-قَالَ : { لَا تَأْكُلُوا بِالشِّمَالِ ; فَإِنَّ اَلشَّيْطَانَ يَأْكُلُ بِالشِّمَالِ } رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Abu Qatadah (RA):

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "When one of you drinks, he must not breathe into the vessel." [Agreed upon].

وَعَنْ أَبِي قَتَادَةَ ‏- رضى الله عنه ‏- أَنَّ اَلنَّبِيَّ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-قَالَ : { إِذَا شَرِبَ أَحَدُكُمْ , فَلَا يَتَنَفَّسْ فِي اَلْإِنَاءِ } مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيْهِ [1]‏ .‏

Abu Dawud reported something similar from Ibn 'Abbas (RA) and he added:

"or blow into it," [at-Tirmidhi graded it Sahih (authentic)].

وَلِأَبِي دَاوُدَ : عَنْ اِبْنِ عَبَّاسٍ نَحْوُهُ , وَزَادَ : { أَوْ يَنْفُخْ فِيهِ } وَصَحَّحَهُ اَلتِّرْمِذِيُّ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated 'Aishah (RA):

Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) used to divide visits to his wives equally and say, "O Allah, this is my division concerning what I possess, so do not blame me concerning what You possess and I do not." [Reported by al-Arba'a; Ibn Hibban and al-Hakim graded it Sahih (authentic). at-Tirmidhi held that the stronger view is that it is Mursal (a missing link in the chain after the Tabi'i)].

عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ‏-رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهَا‏- قَالَتْ : { كَانَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-يَقْسِمُ , فَيَعْدِلُ , وَيَقُولُ : "اَللَّهُمَّ هَذَا قَسْمِي فِيمَا أَمْلِكُ , فَلَا تَلُمْنِي فِيمَا تَمْلِكُ وَلَا أَمْلِكُ } رَوَاهُ اَلْأَرْبَعَةُ , وَصَحَّحَهُ اِبْنُ حِبَّانَ وَالْحَاكِمُ , وَلَكِنْ رَجَّحَ اَلتِّرْمِذِيُّ إِرْسَالَه ُ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Abu Hurairah (RA):

The Prophet (ﷺ) said: "Anyone who has two wives and inclines to one of them will come on the Day of Resurrection with a side (of his body) inclining." [Reported by Ahmad and al-Arba'a; its chain of narrators is Sahih (authentic)].

وَعَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ‏- رضى الله عنه ‏- عَنْ اَلنَّبِيِّ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-قَالَ : { مَنْ كَانَتْ لَهُ اِمْرَأَتَانِ , فَمَالَ إِلَى إِحْدَاهُمَا , جَاءَ يَوْمَ اَلْقِيَامَةِ وَشِقُّهُ مَائِلٌ } رَوَاهُ أَحْمَدُ , وَالْأَرْبَعَةُ , وَسَنَدُهُ صَحِيح ٌ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Anas (RA):

It is from the Sunnah that when a man who has a wife marries a virgin, he should spend with her seven nights, and thereafter divide time between them (equally). And if he marries a formerly married woman he should spend with her three nights and thereafter divide the time between his wives (equally). [Agreed upon: the wording is al-Bukhari's].

وَعَنْ أَنَسٍ قَالَ : { مِنَ اَلسُّنَّةِ إِذَا تَزَوَّجَ اَلرَّجُلُ اَلْبِكْرَ عَلَى اَلثَّيِّبِ أَقَامَ عِنْدَهَا سَبْعًا , ثُمَّ قَسَمَ , وَإِذَا تَزَوَّجَ اَلثَّيِّبَ أَقَامَ عِنْدَهَا ثَلَاثًا , ثُمَّ قَسَمَ } مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيْهِ , وَاللَّفْظُ لِلْبُخَارِيّ ِ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Umm Salamah (RA):

When the Prophet (ﷺ) married her he stayed with her for three nights and said, "You are not being humbles in my estimation. If you wish I shall stay with you seven nights, and if I stay with you for seven nights I shall do the same with my other wives." [Reported by Muslim].

وَعَنْ أُمِّ سَلَمَةَ ‏-رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهَا‏- { أَنَّ اَلنَّبِيَّ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-لَمَّا تَزَوَّجَهَا أَقَامَ عِنْدَهَا ثَلَاثًا , وَقَالَ : " إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ بِكِ عَلَى أَهْلِكِ هَوَانٌ , إِنْ شِئْتِ سَبَّعْتُ لَكِ , وَإِنْ سَبَّعْتُ لَكِ سَبَّعْتُ لِنِسَائِي } رَوَاهُ مُسْلِم ٌ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated 'Aishah (RA):

Sauda (RA) daughter of Zam'ah gave away her day to 'Aishah (RA). So the Prophet (ﷺ) allotted a share to 'Aishah (RA) of her day and Sauda's. [Agreed upon].

وَعَنْ عَائِشَةَ ‏-رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهَا‏- { أَنَّ سَوْدَةَ بِنْتَ زَمْعَةَ وَهَبَتْ يَوْمَهَا لِعَائِشَةَ , وَكَانَ اَلنَّبِيُّ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-يَقْسِمُ لِعَائِشَةَ يَوْمَهَا وَيَوْمَ سَوْدَةَ } مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيْه ِ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated 'Urwah (RA):

'Aishah (RA) said: "O my nephew, Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) would not prefer some of us over others regarding the division of the time he would spend with us. It was very rare that he would not visit us all, and come near each of his wives without having intercourse with her, till he reached the one whose day it was, and spent the night with her." [Reported by Ahmad and Abu Dawud, the wording is Abu Dawud's. al-Hakim graded it Sahih (authentic)].

وَعَنْ عُرْوَةَ قَالَ : { قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ : يَا اِبْنَ أُخْتِي ! كَانَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-لَا يُفَضِّلُ بَعْضَنَا عَلَى بَعْضٍ فِي اَلْقَسْمِ مِنْ مُكْثِهِ عِنْدَنَا , وَكَانَ قَلَّ يَوْمٌ إِلَّا وَهُوَ يَطُوفُ عَلَيْنَا جَمِيعًا , فَيَدْنُو مِنْ كُلِّ اِمْرَأَةٍ مِنْ غَيْرِ مَسِيسٍ , حَتَّى يَبْلُغَ اَلَّتِي هُوَ يَوْمُهَا , فَيَبِيتَ عِنْدَهَا } رَوَاهُ أَحْمَدُ , وَأَبُو دَاوُدَ وَاللَّفْظُ لَهُ , وَصَحَّحَهُ اَلْحَاكِم ُ [1]‏ .‏

Muslim reported 'Aishah (RA) as saying:

"When Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) offered the 'Asr (afternoon) prayer, he would visit his wives in turn, then come close to them (kiss or hug them)." [The narrator reported the rest of the Hadith previous].

وَلِمُسْلِمٍ : عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ‏-رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهَا‏- قَالَتْ : { كَانَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-إِذَا صَلَّى اَلْعَصْرَ دَارَ عَلَى نِسَائِهِ , ثُمَّ يَدْنُو مِنْهُنَّ } اَلْحَدِيث َ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated 'Aishah (RA):

During the illness of which Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) died, he was asking, "Where shall I be tomorrow?" He desired that it would be 'Aishah's day. His wives therefore permitted him to stay where he wished, and he stayed in 'Aishah's house. [Agreed upon].

وَعَنْ عَائِشَةَ ‏-رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهَا‏- { أَنَّ رَسُولَ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-كَانَ يَسْأَلُ فِي مَرَضِهِ اَلَّذِي مَاتَ فِيهِ :

أَيْنَ أَنَا غَدًا ?

, يُرِيدُ : يَوْمَ عَائِشَةَ , فَأَذِنَ لَهُ أَزْوَاجُهُ يَكُونُ حَيْثُ شَاءَ , فَكَانَ فِي بَيْتِ عَائِشَةَ } مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيْه ِ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated ['Aishah (RA)]:

When Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) intended to go on a journey, he cast lots among his wives. Then, he would take with him the one who was chosen by the lot. [Agreed upon].

وَعَنْهَا قَالَتْ : { كَانَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-إِذَا أَرَادَ سَفَرًا أَقْرَعَ بَيْنَ نِسَائِهِ , فَأَيَّتُهُنَّ خَرَجَ سَهْمُهَا , خَرَجَ بِهَا } مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيْه ِ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated 'Abdullah bin Zam'ah (RA):

Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: "None of you should whip his wife like the whipping of a slave." [Reported by al-Bukhari].

وَعَنْ عَبْدِ اَللَّهِ بْنِ زَمْعَةَ ‏- رضى الله عنه ‏- قَالَ : قَالَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-{ لَا يَجْلِدُ أَحَدُكُمْ اِمْرَأَتَهُ جَلْدَ اَلْعَبْدِ } رَوَاهُ اَلْبُخَارِيّ ُ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Ibn 'Abbas (RA):

The wife of Thabit bin Qais came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) , I do not find fault with Thabit bin Qais (RA) in respect of character or religion, but I dislike (and fear) that I might commit an act of Kufr fil-Islam (that which is contradictory to Islamic behavior)." Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) asked her, "Will you give him back his garden?" And she replied, "Yes," so Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said to him, "Accept the garden and divorce her, with one pronouncement (of divorce)." [Reported by al-Bukhari].

عَنْ اِبْنِ عَبَّاسٍ ‏- رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا‏- { أَنَّ اِمْرَأَةَ ثَابِتِ بْنِ قَيْسٍ أَتَتْ اَلنَّبِيَّ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-فَقَالَتْ : يَا رَسُولَ اَللَّهِ ! ثَابِتُ بْنُ قَيْسٍ مَا أَعِيبُ عَلَيْهِ فِي خُلُقٍ وَلَا دِينٍ , وَلَكِنِّي أَكْرَهُ اَلْكُفْرَ فِي اَلْإِسْلَامِ , قَالَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-" أَتَرُدِّينَ عَلَيْهِ حَدِيقَتَهُ ? " , قَالَتْ : نَعَمْ .‏ قَالَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-" اِقْبَلِ اَلْحَدِيقَةَ , وَطَلِّقْهَا تَطْلِيقَةً } رَوَاهُ اَلْبُخَارِيُّ .‏

Another narration by him has:

"He commanded him to divorce her."

وَفِي رِوَايَةٍ لَهُ : { وَأَمَرَهُ بِطَلَاقِهَا } [1]‏ .‏

Abu Dawud and at-Tirmidhi reported this Hadith and the later graded it Hasan (good):

"The wife of Thabit bin Qais got a divorce from him in return for a compensation (paid by her), and the Prophet (ﷺ) made her 'Iddah (period of waiting before re-marrying) one menstruation course."

وَلِأَبِي دَاوُدَ , وَاَلتِّرْمِذِيِّ وَحَسَّنَهُ : { أَنَّ اِمْرَأَةَ ثَابِتِ بْنِ قَيْسٍ اِخْتَلَعَتْ مِنْهُ , فَجَعَلَ اَلنَّبِيُّ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-عِدَّتَهَا حَيْضَةً } [1]‏ .‏

Ibn Majah reported the narration of 'Amr bin Shu'aib, on this father's authority, from his grandfather:

"Thabit bin Qais was very unattractive and his wife said, 'Were it not for the fear of Allah, when he entered my presence I would spit in his face.'"

وَفِي رِوَايَةِ عَمْرِوِ بْنِ شُعَيْبٍ , عَنْ أَبِيهِ , عَنْ جَدِّهِ عِنْدَ اِبْنِ مَاجَهْ : { أَنَّ ثَابِتَ بْنَ قَيْسٍ كَانَ دَمِيمً ا [1]‏ وَأَنَّ اِمْرَأَتَهُ قَالَتْ : لَوْلَا مَخَافَةُ اَللَّهِ إِذَا دَخَلَ عَلَيَّ لَبَسَقْتُ فِي وَجْهِهِ } [2]‏ .‏

Ahmad reported from Sahl bin Abu Hathma's Hadith that it was the first ever husband and wife separation for compensation in Islam.

وَلِأَحْمَدَ : مِنْ حَدِيثِ سَهْلِ بْنِ أَبِي حَثْمَةَ : { وَكَانَ ذَلِكَ أَوَّلَ خُلْعٍ فِي اَلْإِسْلَامِ } [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Ibn 'Umar (RA):

Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said: "The lawful thing which Allah hates most is divorce." [Reported by Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah, al-Hakim graded it Sahih (authentic), while Abu Hatim held the stronger view is that it is Mursal (missing link after the Tabi'i)].

عَنِ اِبْنِ عُمَرَ ‏- رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا‏- قَالَ : قَالَ رَسُولُ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-{ أَبْغَضُ اَلْحَلَالِ عِنْدَ اَللَّهِ اَلطَّلَاقُ } رَوَاهُ أَبُو دَاوُدَ , وَابْنُ مَاجَهْ , وَصَحَّحَهُ اَلْحَاكِمُ , وَرَجَّحَ أَبُو حَاتِمٍ إِرْسَالَهُ [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Ibn 'Umar (RA):

In the time of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ), he divorced his wife while she was menstruating, so 'Umar asked Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) about that and he replied, "Command him to take her back and keep her till she is purified (from menses), has another period, and is then purified. If he then wishes he may keep her and if he wishes he may divorce her before having intercourse with her. That is the 'Iddah (period of waiting) which Allah commanded for the divorce of women." [Agreed upon].

وَعَنِ اِبْنِ عُمَرَ ‏- رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا { أَنَّهُ طَلَّقَ اِمْرَأَتَهُ ‏- وَهِيَ حَائِضٌ ‏- فِي عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-فَسَأَلَ عُمَرُ رَسُولَ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-عَنْ ذَلِكَ ? فَقَالَ : " مُرْهُ فَلْيُرَاجِعْهَا , ثُمَّ لْيُمْسِكْهَا حَتَّى تَطْهُرَ , ثُمَّ تَحِيضَ , ثُمَّ تَطْهُرَ , ثُمَّ إِنْ شَاءَ أَمْسَكَ بَعْدُ , وَإِنْ شَاءَ طَلَّقَ بَعْدَ أَنْ يَمَسَّ , فَتِلْكَ اَلْعِدَّةُ اَلَّتِي أَمَرَ اَللَّهُ أَنْ تُطَلَّقَ لَهَا اَلنِّسَاءُ } مُتَّفَقٌ عَلَيْهِ [1]‏ .‏

A narration by Muslim has:

"Command him to take her back, then divorce her when she is pure from the menstrual discharge, or pregnant."

وَفِي رِوَايَةٍ لِمُسْلِمٍ : { مُرْهُ فَلْيُرَاجِعْهَا, ثُمَّ لْيُطَلِّقْهَا طَاهِرًا أَوْ حَامِلًا } [1]‏ .‏

Another narration by al-Bukhari has:

"It was regarded as one divorce."

وَفِي رِوَايَةٍ أُخْرَى لِلْبُخَارِيِّ : { وَحُسِبَتْ عَلَيْهِ تَطْلِيقَةً } [1]‏ .‏

A narration of Muslim has:

"Ibn 'Umar (RA) said: 'If you had only made one or two pronouncements of divorce [it would have been better]. Indeed Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) commanded me to take her back, then keep her till she has another period, then give her a reprieve till she is purified, then divorce her before having intercourse with her. As for you, you have divorced her with three pronouncements (at once), and have therefore disobeyed your Rabb (your Lord, the Creator) concerning what He commanded you regarding divorcing your wife.'"

وَفِي رِوَايَةٍ لِمُسْلِمٍ : قَالَ اِبْنُ عُمَرَ : { أَمَّا أَنْتَ طَلَّقْتَهَا وَاحِدَةً أَوْ اِثْنَتَيْنِ ; فَإِنَّ رَسُولَ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-أَمَرَنِي أَنْ أُرَاجِعَهَا , ثُمَّ أُمْهِلَهَا حَتَّى تَحِيضَ حَيْضَةً أُخْرَى , وَأَمَّا أَنْتَ طَلَّقْتَهَا ثَلَاثًا , فَقَدْ عَصَيْتَ رَبَّكَ فِيمَا أَمَرَكَ مِنْ طَلَاقِ اِمْرَأَتِكَ } [1]‏ .‏

Another narration [of Muslim] has:

"Abdullah bin 'Umar (RA) said: 'So he returned her to me and did not regarded it as anything, and said: When she is purified, either divorce her or keep her.'"

وَفِي رِوَايَةٍ أُخْرَى : قَالَ عَبْدُ اَللَّهِ بْنُ عُمَرَ : { فَرَدَّهَا عَلَيَّ , وَلَمْ يَرَهَا شَيْئًا , وَقَالَ : " إِذَا طَهُرَتْ فَلْيُطَلِّقْ أَوْ لِيُمْسِكْ } [1]‏ .‏

Narrated Ibn 'Abbas (RA):

In the time of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ), Abu Bakr (RA) and the first two years of the caliphate of 'Umar (RA), the three pronouncements of divorce were regarded as one divorce. So 'Umar said, "People have made haste in an affair which they are required to take slowly. What if we execute it on them." So, he executed it on them. [Reported by Muslim].

وَعَنِ اِبْنِ عَبَّاسٍ ‏- رَضِيَ اَللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا‏- قَالَ : { كَانَ اَلطَّلَاقُ عَلَى عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-وَأَبِي بَكْرٍ , وَسَنَتَيْنِ مِنْ خِلَافَةِ عُمَرَ , طَلَاقُ اَلثَّلَاثِ وَاحِدَةٌ , فَقَالَ عُمَرُ بْنُ اَلْخَطَّابِ : إِنَّ اَلنَّاسَ قَدْ اِسْتَعْجَلُوا فِي أَمْرٍ كَانَتْ لَهُمْ فِيهِ أَنَاةٌ , فَلَوْ أَمْضَيْنَاهُ عَلَيْهِمْ ? فَأَمْضَاهُ عَلَيْهِمْ } .‏ رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ [1]‏ .‏