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Riyad as-Salihin, 1657

'Umar bin Al-Khattab (May Allah be pleased with him) said:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "The deceased is tortured in his grave for bewailing over him." <b>[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]</b>.

عن عمر بن الخطاب رضي الله عنه قال‏:‏ قال النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏:‏‏"‏الميت يُعذب في قبره بما نِيح عليه ‏"‏‏. وَفِي روايةٍ:"مَا نِيحَ علَيْهِ"‏ ‏(‏‏(‏متفق عليه‏)‏‏)‏‏.‏

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In-Book Reference
Book 17, Hadith 147
Sharh · explanationclick to expand
<b>Guidance from the Hadith:</b><br> 1) It is prohibited to wail over the dead, for this contradicts patience.<br> 2) Wailing constitutes a kind of objection to the decree and predestination of Allah Almighty; whereas we are required to submit to His painful decrees.<br> Note:<br> This Hadith applies to a person who condones wailing, asks his relatives to wail over him, or neglects to forbid them from wailing. So, everyone should advise his family to adhere to the Prophet’s Sunnah and guidance upon his death and to shun the Shariah prohibitions on death-related matters. A person who does so has absolved himself and is safe from the reported threat, and Allah knows best.<br> <br> <br> <br> <b>Words in the Hadith:</b><br> To wail is to cry loudly over the death of someone and mention his good traits by way of bragging.