Riyad as-Salihin, 1533
Fatimah bint Qais (May Allah be pleased with her) said:
I came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said to him: "Muawiyah and Abul-Jahm sent me a proposal of marriage." The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Muawiyah is destitute and he has no property, and Abul-Jahm is very hard on women." <b>[Bukhari and Muslim]</b>.
وعن فاطمة بنت قيس رضي الله عنها قالت: أتيت النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم، فقلت: إن أبا الجهم ومعاوية خطباني؟ فقال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم:"أما معاوية، فصعلوك لا مال له ، وأما أبوالجهم، فلا يضع العصا عن عاتقه" ((متفق عليه)) . وفي رواية لمسلم : "وأما أبو الجهم فضراب للنساء" وهو تفسير لرواية: " لا يضع العصا عن عاتقه" وقيل: معناه: كثير الأسفار.
References1 variant
- In-Book Reference
- Book 17, Hadith 23
Sharh · explanationclick to expand
<b>Guidance from the Hadith:</b><br>
1) A Muslim is encouraged to give advice his Muslim brother and guide him to what is good if the latter asked him for advice.<br>
2) One is required to seek the advice of the people of knowledge and virtue about his religious affairs and those related to the worldly life, and should accept their advice.<br>
3) It is permissible to explain the qualities of a man or a woman when there is a proposal of marriage as this is considered a form of exchanging advice.