Riyad as-Salihin, 646
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "The strong man is not the one who wrestles, but the strong man is in fact the one who controls himself in a fit of rage." <b>[Al-Bukhari and Muslim]</b>.
وعن أبى هريرة رضي الله عنه أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: ليس الشديد بالصرعة، إنما الشديد الذى يملك نفسه عند الغضب” ((متفق عليه))
References1 variant
- In-Book Reference
- Introduction, Hadith 646
Sharh · explanationclick to expand
<b>Guidance from the Hadith:</b><br>
1) A truly strong person is the one who fights and overpowers his anger.<br>
2) It was the approach of the prophets to correct people’s errors and teach them. So, seekers of knowledge should be keen to correct people’s common mistakes and non-Islamic habits.<br>
3) A person who calls people to the true and good path could miss a great deal of opportunities to achieve his goals on account of his anger. Most people tend to get close to well-mannered and well-spoken persons, regardless of whether they are right or wrong. So, we should be keen to call to Allah Almighty by a sound judicious approach and right guidance and manners.<br>
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<b>Benefit:</b><br>
Ibn Al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy upon him) said:<br>
“Religion is all about good manners. So, if a person is better mannered than you, then he is more religious than you... Good manners rest upon four necessary pillars:<br>
Patience, chastity, bravery, and justice.<br>
Patience: It drives a person to endure, restrain his anger, refrain from harming others, and show forbearance and gentleness... Chastity: It prompts a person to avoid all vices and reprehensible deeds or actions and to be bashful, which is the key to all goodness. It also prevents him from immorality, stinginess, and lying...<br>
Bravery: It urges a person to be dignified, seek lofty morals and traits, and give to others, and it prompts him to restrain his anger and act with forbearance...<br>
Justice: It prods a person to be upright and moderate in his manners, midway between exaggeration and neglect... All good morals stem from these four pillars...” [Madārij al-Sālikin]