Riyad as-Salihin, 334
Abud-Darda' (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
A man came to me and said, "I have a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce". I replied him that I had heard Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) saying, "A parent is the best of the gates of Jannah; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it." <b>[At-Tirmidhi, who classified it as Hadith Hasan Sahih]</b>.
وعن أبي الدرداء رضي الله عنه أن رجلاً أتاه فقال: إن لي امرأة وإن أمي تأمرني بطلاقها؟ فقال: سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول
الوالد أوسط أبواب الجنة، فإن شئت، فأضع ذلك الباب، أو أحفظه
((رواه الترمذي وقال: حديث حسن صحيح)).
References1 variant
- In-Book Reference
- Introduction, Hadith 334
Sharh · explanationclick to expand
<b>Guidance from the Hadith:</b><br>
1) Pleasing the parents takes precedence over pleasing the wife.<br>
2) The Companions’ approach in giving Fatwa was to mention the statements of the Messenger of Allah (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) without unnecessarily conducting personal reasoning.<br>
Important note:<br>
Obedience is not absolutely due in all cases where a father orders his son to divorce his wife, but this rather depends on the father’s character and uprightness. If he is righteous, wise, and more aware of the interests than his son, then he should be obeyed in this case. But if the father is dissolute and unwise, he should not be obeyed in what incurs evil upon his son.