Riyad as-Salihin, 276

'Amr bin Al-Ahwas Al-Jushami (May Allah be pleased with him) reported that he had heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying on his Farewell Pilgrimage, after praising and glorifying Allah and admonishing people, "Treat women kindly, they are like captives in your hands; you do not owe anything else from them. In case they are guilty of open indecency, then do not share their beds and beat them lightly but if they return to obedience, do not have recourse to anything else against them. You have rights over your wives and they have their rights over you. Your right is that they shall not permit anyone you dislike to enter your home, and their right is that you should treat them well in the matter of food and clothing". [At- Tirmidhi, who categorized it as Hadith Hasan Sahih].

- وعن عمرو بن الأحوض الجشمي رضي الله عنه أنه سمع النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم في حجة الوداع يقول بعد أن حمد الله تعالى، وأثنى عليه وذكر ووعظ، ثم قال‏:‏ ‏

‏ألا واستوصوا بالنساء خيرًا فإنما هن عوانٍ عندكم ليس تملكون منهن شيئا غير ذلك إلا أن يأتين بفاحشة مبينة، فإن فعلن فاهجروهن في المضاجع، واضربوهن ضربا غير مبرح، فإن أطعنكم فلا تبغوا عليهن سبيلا، ألا إن لكم على نسائكم حقا، ولنسائكم عليكم حقا، فحقكم عليهن أن لا يوطئن فرشكم من تكرهون، ولا يأذن في بيوتكم لمن تكرهون، ألا وحقهن عليكم أن تحسنوا إليهن في كسوتهن وطعامهن‏

‏ ‏(‏‏(‏رواه الترمذي وقال ‏:‏ حديث حسن صحيح‏)‏‏)‏‏.‏

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In-Book Reference: Introduction, Hadith 276

Sharh · explanationclick to expand

Guidance from the Hadith: 1) A woman should not allow anyone to enter her bedroom if her husband dislikes that, nor should she show hospitality to those whom he dislikes, nor receive in her house those whom he dislikes. All these are from the rights her husband has over her. 2) A husband should provide for his wife even if she is rich, because he is granted the right of being in charge of her in return for spending on her from what Allah Almighty has provided him with. Benefit: The levels of disciplining the wife are mentioned in the verse where Allah Almighty says: {As for those women on whose part you fear rebellion, [first] admonish them, [next] forsake them in bed, and [last] hit them [gently]} Hence, they are three levels: 1) That he gives her advice in a good manner. If she does not respond to the advice, he moves to the second level. 2) That he forsakes her in bed, but he does not leave the bed. Forsaking means that he turns his back to her or does not talk to her. Those who understand that it means to just leave their sleeping place are wrong in their understanding. If this method does not work, he moves to the third level. 3) That he beats her lightly, without harming her, if she persists in her disobedience. Words in the Hadith: Indecency here refers to the wife’s disobedience to her husband as evidenced by the statement of Allah Almighty mentioned thereafter: {Then if they obey you, do not take further action against them. Indeed, Allah is Most High, All-Great.} They do not permit anyone you dislike to sit on your bedding: they do not host or give hospitality to someone you hate.