Riyad as-Salihin, 273

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:

Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "Take my advice with regard to women: Act kindly towards women, for they were created from a rib, and the most crooked part of a rib is its uppermost. If you attempt to straighten it; you will break it, and if you leave it alone it will remain crooked; so act kindly toward women". [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]. In another narration of Al-Bukhari and Muslim, Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: "A woman is like a rib, if you attempt to straighten it, you will break it; and if you benefit from her, you will do so while crookedness remains in her". In another narration of Muslim, Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said: 'Woman has been created from a rib and will in no way be straightened for you; so if you want to benefit from her, you will benefit from her while crookedness remains in her. If you attempt to straighten her, you will break her, and breaking her is divorcing her".

و عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال‏:‏ قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏:‏ ‏"‏استوصوا بالنساء خيرًا، فإن المرأة خلقت من ضلع، وإن أعوج ما في الضلع أعلاه، فإن ذهبت تقيمه كسرته، وإن تركته، لم يزل أعوج، فاستوصوا بالنساء‏"‏ ‏(‏‏(‏متفق عليه‏)‏‏)‏‏.‏ وفي رواية في ‏(‏‏(‏الصحيحين‏)‏‏)‏ ‏:‏ ‏"‏المرأة كالضلع إن أقمتها كسرتها، وإن استمتعت بها، استمتعت وفيها عوج‏"‏‏.‏ وفي رواية لمسلم‏:‏ ‏"‏إن المرأة خلقت من ضلع ، لن تستقيم لك على طريقة، فإن استمعت بها وفيها عوج، وإن ذهبت تقيمها كسرتها ، وكسرها طلاقها‏"‏‏.

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In-Book Reference: Introduction, Hadith 273

Sharh · explanationclick to expand

Guidance from the Hadith: 1) An instruction from the Messenger of Allah (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) for men to live with their wives in kindness. A husband should take what his wife offers willingly and easily. 2) If you dislike some of your wife’s manners, you surely like some other manners, so let the latter make up for the former, and keep on showing patience and giving advice until matters are set right. 3) The Lawgiver (Allah Almighty) is careful to maintain marital affection and provide all that reinforces it, by encouraging pardon and forgiveness and constant giving of advice.

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