Sahih al-Bukhari, 2620
sahihNarrated Asma' bint Abu Bakr:
My mother came to me during the lifetime of Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) and she was a pagan. I said to Allah's Messenger (seeking his verdict), "My mother has come to me and she desires to receive a reward from me, shall I keep good relations with her?" The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "Yes, keep good relation with her. "
حَدَّثَنَا عُبَيْدُ بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو أُسَامَةَ، عَنْ هِشَامٍ، عَنْ أَبِيهِ، عَنْ أَسْمَاءَ بِنْتِ أَبِي بَكْرٍ ـ رضى الله عنهما ـ قَالَتْ قَدِمَتْ عَلَىَّ أُمِّي وَهْىَ مُشْرِكَةٌ، فِي عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم، فَاسْتَفْتَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم قُلْتُ {إِنَّ أُمِّي قَدِمَتْ} وَهْىَ رَاغِبَةٌ، أَفَأَصِلُ أُمِّي قَالَ
نَعَمْ صِلِي أُمَّكِ
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- Vol. 3, Book 47, Hadith 789 (deprecated numbering scheme)
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Upholding ties of kinship and dutifulness towards parents are among the good manners preached by Islam and instilled in the hearts of Muslims. The enjoined dutifulness and upholding of kinship ties are not exclusive to Muslims, and are also required for non-Muslim relations, especially close relatives such as the parents, siblings, etc. In this hadeeth, Asmaa’ bint Abee Bakr (may Allah be pleased with her) stated that her mother, Qutaylah bint Al-‘Uzzaa, who was a pagan,came to her during the lifetime of Allah's Messenger ﷺ. Another version of the hadeeth recorded in Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree and Saheeh Muslim reads: “My mother who was a polytheist came to me when he (the Prophet) ﷺ entered into treaty with Quraysh,” meaning in the period between Al-Hudaybiyah Peace Treaty and the conquest of Makkah. Asmaa’ (may Allah be pleased with her) was then married to Al-Zubayr ibn Al-‘Awwaam (may Allah be pleased with him). She (may Allah be pleased with her) sent to Allah's Messenger (seeking his verdict) and told him that her mother wanted to maintain good relations with her and win her heart, since she offered her gifts and aspired to receive a reward or something else from her, but that her mother was not inclined to Islam. She (may Allah be pleased with her) asked the Prophet ﷺ as to whether she should keep good relations with her, despite the fact that she held onto disbelief. The Prophet ﷺ said, “Yes, keep good relations with her,” meaning uphold ties of kinship with her despite her disbelief. It is deduced from the hadeeth that it is allowable for a Muslim person to uphold ties of kinship with his non-Muslim relatives. The hadeeth underlines the merits of Asmaa’ bint Aboo Bakr (may Allah be pleased with them), who keenly sought the Prophet’sﷺ verdict beforehand, and mindfully asked about the relevant religious ruling before acting..